“Love” can be one of those words that is used often, and in a variety of ways. I love my pet, I love pizza, I love my grandmother, I love that shirt I bought on clearance. Some people fear that a liberal use of the word love can take away from its meaning as it applies to interpersonal relationships. Others believe that you should tell someone that you love them as often as you feel it. The idea of “love” can carry a lot of weight in romantic relationships, and sometimes people feel anxiety about expressing feelings of love to their intimate partners. It is easy to assume that we all have the same definition of love, or that our partners know what we mean when we say, “I love you.” Different people can have different ideas about what romantic love means, and how it is or should be expressed. So, what does it mean to be in love, and how can we make sure that we are on the same page with our partners even after we have gotten to the stage where “I love you” feels like second nature to say?
While Chapman’s book focuses on the relationships of heterosexual married couples, the idea of love languages can be applied to any intimate relationship
Dr. Gary Chapman, a ework to help couples address some of these questions, and strengthen their ability to communicate effectively in his book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. Continue Reading